A Funny Thing Happened on My Way to Losing Weight

I’d like to start today’s post by saying how incredibly supported I have felt over the last 8 months of my weight loss journey. Your messages, emails, and face to face encouragement has made me feel like I can really do this. I know I can reach my goal of losing 100 pounds.

Having said that, something came up this weekend that I wasn’t prepared for. Losing 70 pounds is obviously noticeable but when you take in consideration that I have been at this since August it averages out to losing a little more than 8 pounds a month. I wouldn’t call that an unhealthy rate or a faster rate than normal. But apparently some people don’t agree. A very good friend of mine texted me Saturday night saying she was told by someone that my “dramatic” weight loss was actually the result of gastric bypass surgery. Needless to say I was a little taken aback. The person that told her that is not in my life but clearly the original teller of this story is. I was trying to rack my brain as to when I had the surgery and how hard I must have hit my head to forget all about it. But then I looked through my calendar, checked out all of my annoying Facebook check-ins at the gym, went through the list of food groups that I’m still avoiding and realized that I didn’t in fact have that surgery. And while I did work with a doctor to change my life it was not a doctor that performs gastric bypass.

I know people that have had gastric bypass surgery and I am so impressed by the lengths that they have gone to get healthy. I have gone to some pretty great lengths myself. When I finally do reach my goal I would like to do something to help empower others to lead a healthy lifestyle too.

Maybe this could be the start of a whole other career for me. I could be the Jillian Michaels that doesn’t scare people. Maybe I will design a fitness line that goes from size 0 to size 24. At that point I would understand the gossip,  jealousy, and cattiness but not right now. I am still the heaviest out of any of my friends and extended family. A lot of people that meet me for the first time may even be judging me for being overweight. Have I lost a lot of weight? Yeah, but I’m not skinny and that’s okay. What’s not okay is being a mean girl and taking away from how hard I’ve worked and what a long road I still have ahead of me to not only reach my goal but maintain it for the rest of my life.

So if you or someone you know is struggling to be healthy, please tell him or her that I am too. Share this site, lend your support, invite that person to join you at a spin class, or make plans to meet at a restaurant that has healthy options. Just be understanding and most of all be kind.



8 comments on “A Funny Thing Happened on My Way to Losing Weight”

  1. Beth Bernstein Reply

    I’ll start with something positive: You look absolutely radiant – inside and out – in this photo (LOVE the new ‘do!).

    Now, on to the haters: In the wise words of my 14yo daughter’s idol, “Haters gonna hate.”

    There are people in the world that simply cannot be happy for others. I don’t understand this mentality, but I wouldn’t be surprised if there was some clinical diagnosis for this. And as someone who has their fair share of clinical diagnoses, I say that without any sarcasm.

    Kudos to you, Heidy, for taking the high road and doing a tongue-in-cheek post about how you checked your calendar to see when you had time to fit the surgery in.

    And I do think you have something there with a fitness line that goes up to size 24. You know, b/c you have plenty of time to launch a new business with not having to go to the gym and all.

    Love you!

  2. Maris Reply

    I can totally relate to the “heaviest of all my friends” comment that you made, and you and I are probably right around the same weight.

    I lost 20 pounds a few months ago that I’ve kept off, but constantly berate myself for the fact that it isn’t more, or that I didn’t stick to my diet even though that 20 pounds was the difference between feeling like complete poo about myself and feeling motivated to run three half marathons this year and meet a few other lifestyle goals that I’ve set for myself.

    What I constantly tell myself when I’m looking around a yoga class embarrassed because I’m the “fattest” in there is that to everyone else, I probably look completely normal to because we are our own worst critics. When I run my fastest mile pace and I’m thinking “if I lost 20 pounds I would be way faster” that isn’t productive and I need to celebrate the thing I CAN do.

    It’s so hard but we are doing it!

    • admin Reply

      Maris you are beautiful and strong (a pretty amazing combo) and I know you will reach every lifestyle goal you set for yourself this year. Congrats on losing 20 pounds by the way!

  3. Julie Reply

    H–world is full of mean girls; these girls are fueled by jealousy and their own insecurities. Ignore the haters and keep on your journey! That said, I don’t think that undergoing a weight reduction surgery is should be stigmatized. For some people, it’s the best solution. Live and let live! Love you!

  4. Samantha Reply

    You are a complete inspiration and light. You never know how many positive imprints you are leaving, or how far your message is being heard by simply having the courage to share your story. I find it totally motivating. xx

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